Monday, November 10, 2014

Spiritual Growing Pains: Tell-Tale Signs

When we awaken spiritually, a subtle yet powerful shift occurs. Like a newborn, we crave spiritual nourishment so that we can grow and evolve. Just as we experience the physical growing pains of childhood, we experience the metaphysical growing pains of spirithood.

As we grow, we find ourselves expanding beyond people, places, and ideas that have been familiar and comfortable. These can be challenging times, especially when those around us make judgments about our new state of being and our new-found, ever-evolving approach to life situations. Some may even choose not to support us in our decisions and transformation.

This does not mean anything is wrong with you. Nor does it mean that there is anything wrong with those who no longer wish to support your growth. We each grow and learn at different rates, and as much as we'd like to take others with us on our journey, sometimes we must accept that in moving on we may have to leave others behind.

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And therein lies the spiritual pain. As much as we want to remain, we know we can't. Yet we push forward because we know the pain would be that much greater in remaining than in answering the call of Higher Self. No pill can palliate the pain. Why? Because the point of spiritual pain is not to get rid of it, but to embrace it and integrate it, so that we can grow through it. We can certainly channel this energy through various spiritual practices (prayer, meditation, chanting, ritual cleansing, acts of atonement, yoga, etc.) that will bring clarity, direction, and peace of mind.

Here are some tell-tale signs of spiritual growing pains:

Restlessness. Spirit wants to move and create; the ego wants to lounge and stick with the status quo. You'll want to "do new things" even if you don't know what those things are...yet. Your sleep patterns may be affected. You get the strong feeling that there's something more to life, and you begin to develop a determination to find out what it is. You realize that the material world cannot fulfill this longing.

Restriction. Spirit moves in freedom; the ego remains within safe confines. You may be feeling the constraints of a job or a relationship that no longer serves you. In fact, the situation feels inhibiting and contracting rather than expanding. You want to break free from restrictive patterns, toxic people, and life-draining jobs, and you begin to do so.

Brain-fog. Spirit is suprarational; the ego refuses to budge beyond the rational. Things that you thought made sense no longer make sense. And things that never made sense before suddenly make sense. Normally, the left hemisphere of the brain (which likes to organize, compartmentalize, analyze, evaluate, synthesize, and problem-solve) dominates the often less-valued right side of the brain. You may be experiencing psychic ability, intuitive knowing, feeling, compassion, and other right hemisphere activities that contradict those of the left side of the brain. You may also be experiencing a feeling of spaciness, minor memory lapses, scattered thinking, mild dizziness, and a general fogginess as you try to find balance. You feel drawn to creative activities of expression and to the sensate. There's no explaining it; it's an inner knowing. As you allow your heart and your right brain to lead you, the left will activate appropriately to support you, and that "fog" will lift.

Of course, seek medical help if these symptoms persist. If you've determined that it is not a medical condition, then simply relax in the realization that what you are experiencing is temporary.

As Spirit evolves, ego devolves. Spiritual growing pains are part of our journey. Recognizing, embracing, and channeling them will give us the confidence and strength to move through them.

Friday, November 7, 2014

Time For A Cosmic Reset?

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We forget that we have choices.

We forget that our current reality exists because of our choices.

We forget that we are the creators of our current reality.

We forget that we are in charge of our own happiness.

There are laws that rule the Universe.

We forget that these laws are in place to help us fulfill our destiny, to help us be the highest expression of ourselves.

We don't have to do anything to activate these laws. These laws are always working in our lives.

Where are you focusing your attention lately?

Is it focused predominately on thoughts of lack or resistance, or abundance and flow? It is an energetic law of the Universe that like attracts like. Whatever thought (vibration) we hold within mind magnetically draws more of the same to us.

Time for a cosmic reset.

Remember:

1) Everything is energy.

2) Energy follows thought.

3) Your dominant thought (focus, vibration) brings you more of the same.

Change your thinking and you change the direction of your energy.

Your choices put you in the creator's seat. Become aware of your choices. Better choices bring better results, and better results make for a better reality.

It's clearly up to you.

Monday, November 3, 2014

Frustrated? Try Gratitude

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Many people underestimate the power of gratitude.

And many times, gratitude is dismissed in times of frustration. Instead, people resort to complaining. Then they find themselves experiencing a chain reaction of negative emotions -- anxiety, despair, anger, even rage -- robbing themselves of inner peace, harmony, and balance.

When we find ourselves in situations that are beginning to frustrate us, we sometimes forget that we have a choice. We can choose to let the situation upset us, or we can choose to manage our energy by taking a more constructive approach.

We know the situations well. Getting stuck in traffic. Waiting in a long line. Patience runs thin. We grimace. We complain. We throw our arms up in frustration. For what? Why fill the body with the toxins that emotions release? Such energy is not going to improve or hurry the situation.

Instead, give pause for thought and appreciate where you are in that moment.

If you're stuck in traffic, be thankful that you have a car with which to get around. Some people don't have such a luxury. Others may not have driving privileges, or their privileges may have been taken away.

If you're stuck in a long line at the store, be thankful that your neighborhood is able to supply you with a business which in turn supplies you with your needs. Think about all the time and effort that goes into managing such a place.

When we take things for granted, we lessen their value.

When we are grateful for what we have, we end up having more.

Gratitude has the power to change your life. It acts as a lightning rod for Universal Energy to transform your life.

You are the key.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Change Your Story, Change Your Life

Everyone loves hearing or telling stories. Stories spur our imagination. Stories give us hope. Stories allow us to express ourselves -- our hopes, our fears, our challenges.

Ever stop to think about the kinds of stories you are telling? To yourself? To others?

Do you relate stories of hope and imagination?

Or do you share stories of doom and gloom?

And, do you realize that you can limit or expand yourself by the stories that you tell?

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Think about the stories you have created about yourself. Do you like those stories? If so, great. Keep telling them. If not, then do what a writer does...delete the story and start over. Begin telling a new and different story...one of success, not failure.

We are either failure-conscious or success-conscious. You are the only one who can rewrite your story. Change your story and you change your life. Authoring your story sometimes requires revision. Make yours the best version you can.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Create A Self-Care Practice


Self-care is NOT selfish.

Making yourself a priority in your own life does NOT mean that you don't care for your loved ones.

Without self-care, life will overwhelm us. We'll grow frustrated, depleted, even bitter. Our energy plummets. Our weight skyrockets. We compromise our immune systems and invite all kinds of ailments into our bodies and minds. Our relationships suffer. We find ourselves ill-tempered and uninspired. We lose our confidence. Before we know it, a spiritual cancer has set in.

Self-care will combat this.
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Creating a self-care practice will bring you back to YOU.

How?

Re-prioritize. It's time to drop back and punt. Resolve to reevaluate your priorities. Put yourself at the top of your priority list. You can't be number one outside until you are number one inside.

Reconnect with yourself. Ask, "What makes me happy, and what can I do to be the best version of myself?" Take a self-inventory, and then take action!

Retreat to nature. Take in and appreciate the beauty and stillness of nature. Immerse yourself in its restorative power. Open yourself to the lessons nature has to teach.

Rekindle your relationship with spirit. Meditate. Pray. Contemplate. Journal your thoughts and feelings. Recommit yourself to spiritual work.

Refuel your body. Re-energize it by getting enough rest, nourishing yourself with healthy foods, and finding fitness you enjoy.

Redecorate your mind. Renew your thinking through positive affirmations and self-talk. Rip down those dismal drapes of doom and let in the light. Clear out the cobwebs of negativity that have slowed or stalled your progress. Release any thoughts that no longer serve you or the highest good.

Recruit support. Hold yourself accountable. Enlist the help of loved ones, friends, or a coach to help you get your life back in control.

Creating an effective self-care practice is about redesigning your life physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The more you give to yourself, the more you give to your loved ones.

Take care of YOU. You are the only YOU you've got.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Gratitude For ALL Things???

Gratitude.

This has been the word of the week around my town after a tornado tore through it this past Monday. Even though it was on the ground for only a few minutes, it left it's calling card.

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The townsfolk here are resilient though. People came together to help one another. With the buzzing of chainsaws in the air, people went to work removing the debris that had accumulated in the tornado's aftermath, all the while giving thanks that their lives were spared. As I navigated through the debris, I encountered a woman who shared with me that a tree had crashed through her home, just missing her and her children. "My house can be replaced. My life and my children's lives can't," she said, "so I am truly blessed." We hugged and I wished her the best.

Power has yet to be restored in some areas of town, but people refuse to sit idle. They want to help, and they are doing what they can to help others. It's a beautiful thing to see. And in every conversation that I hear or overhear, people are giving their thanks despite their losses.

This brings to mind Ralph Waldo Emerson's quote: "Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude."

Yes, this means being grateful for even those things that may appear as obstacles in our lives. Being grateful for all things that happen means embracing not only the good but also the setbacks as part of our overall journey. Everything contributes to who we are and who we are to become.

Seeing our personal "tornadoes" as some kind of punishment is not going to get us through. That is a victim-mindset, something the folks here in town are not displaying, bless their hearts.

Instead, they are not letting this situation define them. They are not focusing on why this has happened to them; they are forging ahead with solutions. They are choosing to be positive. They have a sense of humor. They know that they are not alone. They are allowing others to help them, and they are helping others as well. They are making the best of it so they can move forward.

"Tornadoes" are going to occur from time to time. They may be emotional. They may be financial. They may be spiritual. Whatever the case, no matter how bad the situation may seem, gratitude will see us through and set us on a new path of discovery.

Monday, October 13, 2014

Cutting Cords

In our relationships, there is a continual exchange of energy, whether we realize it or not.

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This energy is an invisible cord that connects two individuals. These are the "ties that bind."

In quantum physics, this is known as "phase entanglement." Particles converge and separate, but often when two of them come together, they take a portion of the other with them when they separate. In our relationships, when two people meet, each one's energy becomes attached to the other, and when the relationship ends, each individual leaves something behind when moving on.

However you view it, or whatever you call it, these cords exist and connect us to others, and they can remain long after a relationship has ended, sometimes leaving an open channel through which emotions and energy can continue to flow.

Think of it as a psychic or invisible umbilical cord through which thoughts, feelings, and energy pass between individuals.

If you're unaware that it exists, you may find yourself feeling the other person's feelings and mistakenly think that they are your own. This kind of psychic vampirism can leave you feeling vulnerable, sad, angry, lethargic, and completely drained of your mojo.

Cutting the cord can help you rid yourself of old baggage and unnecessary attachments, especially from connections that are no longer benefiting either of you.

Cutting the cord of attachment is a gentle but potent process. It's best done when you are alone and relaxed, and it's important that you be strong in your intention to release the cord between you and someone else. There are numerous ways to do this, but you may create your own version or ritual of release. The key components are intention, centering, visualizing, cutting, healing, and blessing.

To begin, state your intention, either aloud or to yourself: "I, (state your name), now intend to release the ties that bind me to (state person's name)."

Center yourself by breathing deeply. When you are ready, visualize or sense the cord that is connecting you to the individual you have named. Determine where the cut is to be made and then visualize a clean, swift cut through the cord. You may call upon the help of archangel Michael with his sword, or you may visualize yourself or your spiritual being of choice doing the cutting.

Visualize any space in your energy field being filled with healing light so as to "cauterize" this spiritual gap. You may enlist the help of archangel Raphael with his green healing light or another spiritual being.

See this as a positive and nurturing act. Say, "I now release (state person's name) with love. It is done." Send it to the light for healing and transformation. Offer your gratitude for this experience.

This does not mean that you are severing the relationship with the person, just the cord that is no longer benefiting either of you. You may have simply outgrown each other, or the relationship may no longer serve a higher purpose. Perhaps it has grown toxic.

Whatever the case, cord cutting is a freeing experience. It releases us, and others, to reach new stages of growth, giving us the space to complete any emotional work that may need to be done.

What has been your experience with cutting cords? Feel free to share.