Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Are You Taking Responsibility?

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Responsibility. It's a word that many people throw around loosely, yet don't want to claim for themselves. And then they wonder why things aren't working out in their lives.

Success in life, especially achieving those things that are most important, depends on you, and you alone.

When we take full responsibility for our lives, suddenly things seem to fall into place. Notice I said "full." Not half. Full.

This doesn't mean doing things half-assed. It means getting off your duff and doing something about something, not sitting idly back wishing for things to fall into your lap. It means being proactive.

Nothing gets done until you take action. The house isn't going to clean itself (unless you have a maid, but even then you have to get off your butt to hire one). The bills aren't going to pay themselves. Those extra 15 pounds you put on over the winter aren't going to melt off of you any time soon. Something has to be done, and only you can do something about it.

We have been blessed with the ability to choose how we respond to events that occur in life.

The question is, how are YOU responding to the events in your life???

Events in and of themselves have no meaning, until we apply meaning to them; that is, until we respond in a way that gives meaning to them.

Those of the victim mindset will react, complain, cry, wail and dramatize the event out of proportion, making others feel sorry for them.

Those of the creator mindset will take proactive measures and turn the event around to their advantage. They will learn from it, grow from it, and even offer gratitude for it.

Want to lose that extra weight? Take responsibility.

Want to pay down your debts? Take responsibility.

Want to find that dream job? Take responsibility.

When you take full responsibility, you will create better outcomes by consciously choosing your responses to the things that happen in your life.

Take responsibility. Today.

Friday, January 16, 2015

The One Thing That Can Change Your Life


Changing our lives begins with changing our thinking.

If you could change one thing in your life, right now, what would you change?

Changing your thinking about that one thing begins the process of allowing things to fall into line so that real change occurs.

Just stating, "I'm going to change this. Now!" with a willingness and determination to change will shift the brain into a solution, or creative, mode.

Maybe you're feeling that life is dull. What can you do to change your thinking on this?

Make a list of all the things that you think are making your life dull.

How many complaints (yes, complaints) do you have? Each time you repeat (think or say) these complaints, a feedback loop is set in motion. The more you tell yourself that life is dull, the more dull it gets. These complaints are limitations that keep you from changing because you keep reinforcing them in your mind.

Now ask, "What can I do to make my life more exciting?" Take a few moments to center yourself, and in a calm frame of mind, create your list. Don't let old conditioning distract you. If negative thoughts crop up, breathe through them, let them go, and focus on the question again.

This exercise allows you to "re-wire" your brain so you can create solutions rather than problems. As solutions surface, you will begin to feel energized, the very opposite of dull. The more energized you feel, the more energy you will create. You will find yourself wanting to take the necessary steps toward real change, and as you do, more opportunities will present themselves to keep you moving forward.

And that's the key. Create solutions that are complete opposites of the conditioning that keeps you stuck in a negative situation.

You will be astonished at the transformation that will take place just by altering your thoughts.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

The Universe Does Not Judge

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The power of the Universe is at our disposal at any given moment.

Actually, we use it all the time whether we realize it or not. It's how we create our experiences, good, bad, and ugly.

It does not judge or differentiate between good or bad, or right or wrong. It delivers based on our belief system, emotion, and readiness.

It reflects our desires. When we believe and feel that we are ready for that which we desire, the Universe rearranges itself and begins the manifestation process. However, when we ask for something, and we feel/believe we are not ready for it, the Universe will perceive us as is -- as someone who wants something but isn't ready, and there we will remain in our self-created struggle.

Whenever we invalidate or deny something, we empower it in our mind. The more we think about what we don't want, the more power we give it to manifest in our lives.

Instead, we must think about what we do want. And we must be very specific in our requests. The Universe likes details, and the more details we give, the better, or it will grant things that do not completely fulfill our expectations.

Take no thought as to how things will occur. We need not worry about the basic mechanism involved. Trust the Universe to rearrange energy patterns behind the scenes to manifest our desires. When we have a specific desire backed by a strong and clear emotion, we have already begun the process of manifestation.

Things will remain the same until we are able to change our thought process, our belief system, and our thought habits.

No matter what we think, the Universe will always provide, according to our dominant thoughts and beliefs. It pays to know what yours are.

Monday, January 12, 2015

Thoughts: Friends or Foes?

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Our thoughts are our constant companions.

They can be our best friends, or our worst enemies.

They can serve our best interests, or sabotage them.

With every thought that we think (choose), the Universe goes into action by simply rearranging itself to accommodate our beliefs. It works on our behalf based on what we choose to think and believe. As energy patterns are rearranged, that which we think about most often (whether in a positive light or negative one) begins the manifestation process.

If you continually focus your thoughts on that which you don't want, those things will surely find their way into your life. Focusing your thoughts on your most positive possibilities enables you to take the steps to make those possibilities real. When you think positive thoughts, you'll be guided to take positive actions. When you take positive actions, you get valuable results.

Your thoughts determine and direct the actions that you take. Choose them as wisely as you would choose your friends.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Finding Your Life's Purpose

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Ever witness someone living his or her life's purpose?

It's inspiring! Such a person exudes happiness. One can't help but feel energized in their company.

Everyone has a purpose in life. And within that purpose lies a signature talent waiting to birth itself to the world.

While some people have a clear vision of their purpose early on in life, there are those whose paths seems unclear, even elusive. I'm one of those whose life's purpose took the circuitous route. But I've learned a lot along the way, despite the detours.

Detours are not setbacks. Hitting a roadblock means it's time to go in a new or different direction. This is a time for reflection and learning. Rather than worry that you may get lost (and you may), trust that your internal GPS is guiding you in the right direction. You may uncover a unique talent as a result, or you may learn something like a new skill or meet someone who will become a mentor. Be open to the possibilities while on detour...and enjoy the scenery along the way.

Read the signs. To be an active participant in your life, you'll need to pay attention. "Signs" will present themselves in various ways. Notice the things that make you happy. Recall times you've felt fulfilled. What were you doing? What did you feel? Did you experience moments when you've lost track of time because of doing something you loved? Take cues from your relationships. What have others said regarding your skills and talents? Notice any common themes? When you hear the same thing several times from others that could be an indication of a talent you've overlooked.

Slow down. To read the signs presenting themselves to you, you'll need to slow down. We live in such a busy world full of constant stimulation, making it hard to wrap our head around our own thoughts. Put yourself in a time-out, away from all the distractions, so that you can restore your balance and energy. This quiet time could be a walk through the woods, journaling, meditating, or exercising. Find what works for you, do it on a daily basis, and you'll give space to inner clarity and expanded awareness that will help you discover yourself.

Change direction. If you've been traveling the same mental route with no results, you'll need to exit and recalculate. Rather than get stuck on asking, "What is my purpose?" ask, "Who do I want to become?" This shift in direction throws your mind into a higher creative gear. What can you see yourself as, and what do you look like (and feel like) as you are doing it? If it feels good, then you are in alignment with your soul's purpose. You'll experience an inner knowing that can not be shaken. You'll know that you know. And it will feel "right."

Discovering your life's purpose requires taking action. Living your life inside your head is not the same as living your life out loud, on purpose. There are steps to be taken with the biggest one being a leap of faith...not always easy, but absolutely necessary. It doesn't have to be one big giant leap, but smaller ones which will impact big changes over time.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

4 Steps To Managing Your Personal Energy

Managing our personal energy is our job, not anyone else's. We are responsible for everything that we think, say, and do. There's no way around it. And as much as we'd like to blame our stress on someone or something else, we must come to terms with the reality that we alone have invited that stress into our lives. We somehow agreed to it, either consciously or unconsciously.

When we live our lives on auto-pilot, we get lazy. We say yes when we mean no. We say no when we mean yes. We act without thinking. We think without acting. We don't set healthy boundaries. We take things for granted. Suddenly two plus two equals seventeen, and we are left reeling under the pressure we've placed upon ourselves...all because we weren't mindful.

When we learn to manage our personal energy, we reclaim our power and our lives. Here's how:

Create a list of things that give you energy. All too often we engage in activities that deplete our energy. The focus here is to embrace activities that increase your energy and make you feel better. Take a walk, call a loved one, sing, meditate. It could be anything. These little things will feel like luxuries. Keep your list available so that you can refer to it whenever you begin feeling overwhelmed.

Chunk your time into manageable segments. Rearrange your day so that you are working in blocks of time, not straight through. After every 90 to 120 minutes, take a break and do something from your list of energy-boosting activities. This allows you to relax and recover, and it gives the brain a much-needed break so that it can recuperate.

Practice mindfulness. Stay focused on one activity at a time. This means NO multitasking during your breaks since your breaks are meant for your energy-building activities.

Set healthy boundaries. Say no when you mean no. Say yes when you mean yes. Don't agree to added responsibility if you can't devote the time and energy. Think carefully about taking on additional tasks. Having no boundaries leaves one open to exploitation. Assert yourself if you must, but do so respectfully.

We can counteract the effects of stress by consciously making decisions and performing activities that energize us. When we feel good, we perform better. And in so doing, the structure of our brain actually changes; new neural pathways form as we continually take in good things, making it easier to feel good in the future.

Monday, December 8, 2014

Positive Mind Medicine

It is a well-known fact that stress, anxiety, tension, worrying, and fear will hurt your physical, mental, and emotional health. These negative states are shots of poison. "Drink" too many and you jeopardize not only your health, but your relationships, your career, your self-confidence, your self-esteem, and your self-worth.

Such negative states release toxins into the bloodstream, thereby "poisoning" your system. This opens the door to various ailments, disorders, diseases, and terminal illnesses.
Talk about being your own worst enemy!

Obviously, minimizing the amount of stress in your life will reduce the amount of "poison" you release into your system.

Hippocrates said, "The natural healing force within each one of us is the greatest force in getting well."

In other words, we hold the "cure." We are our own antidote.

If we can think ourselves sick, we can think ourselves whole. We have within us what it takes to change the direction of our health and the course of our lives. We can do this through the practice of positive mind medicine.

According to Universal Law, our thoughts and beliefs, whether positive or negative, manifest into reality. If we continually pump our systems with negativity, we release harmful cortisol and epinephrine (stress hormones) that deactivate our body's natural self-repair mechanisms. The more that is released, the more the body breaks down, adding more stress to an already compromised immune system.

However, if we use the power of positive thoughts and emotions to influence our physical health, we relax our nervous systems and give our bodies the space to heal. Also, choosing to participate in positive activities over destructive ones releases "happy hormones" (seratonin, endorphins, dopamine, phenylethamine, and gherlin) that reduce the effects of stress and make us feel better.

Of course, I am not suggesting that positive thinking is the only factor in the healing process (things do happen that warrant immediate medical attention; if you need it, seek it). But in many cases, a positive shift in one's way of thinking and mental habits can prove more effective than medicating oneself with drugs or other substances.

If negativity is "poisoning" you, here's what you can do:

Take inventory of the stressors in your life. What immediate steps can you take to reduce them? Develop a plan of action to begin removing them.

Be more aware of your thoughts. Practice mind management. Catch yourself whenever you think negative thoughts, and replace them by thinking about things that bring you joy. This may take some practice, but keep at it. Inside the poison is the antidote, so turn negative thoughts around to thoughts that will serve you rather than harm you.

Rest your body and mind often. Do this several times a day, even if only for a few minutes at a time.

Practice some form of meditation. Meditation releases tension and stress from the body and mind. Use creative visualization to produce positive changes in your life. Breathe deeply and slowly.

Read inspiring words. Start and end your day with inspirational quotes, positive affirmations, or sacred literature that uplifts and edifies you.

Think and expect the best. Focus thought energy on everything working out for the best. Remember, Universal Law works with your thought energy, whether the energy you are emitting is positive or negative.

Give gratitude for what you have. Remind yourself of all the positives in your life, no matter how small. Gratitude acts as a magnet, attracting more into your life for which to be thankful.

Positive mind medicine has no ill side effects, requires no prescription, and the benefits are many. I'll drink to that!