Hugh Prather, in I Touch the Earth, the Earth Touches Me, touches upon his experience in dealing with problems that surface in life. “By approaching my problems with 'What might make things a little better?' rather than 'What is the solution?' I avoid setting myself up for certain frustration. My experience has shown me that I am not going to solve anything in one stroke; at best I am only going to chip away at it.” How we approach our "problems" will be the deciding factor in the outcome.
We are human. We make mistakes. Mistakes have consequences that cause problems -- or opportunities -- depending on your approach. We can be proactive and allow “problems” to teach us new information, or we can be reactive and allow problems to consume us, making us feel incompetent. When a "problem" arises, it becomes our "spiritunity" to turn it into something that allows for our highest good.
If we ask, “What is the solution?” we are taking a close-minded approach. Here, the focus is on the problem as a problem, rather than the problem as an opportunity. This kind of question asks for a quick fix; it suggests that there is only one answer, and when we don’t find that answer right away, frustration sets in, we begin to doubt ourselves and our abilities, and then we close ourselves off to the creative flow. Asking “What is the solution?” is really asking “How can I fix this problem so it doesn’t happen again?”, which is an ego-based question.
If we ask, "What might make things a little better?" then we are allowing ourselves to open up to possibilities that help us to place "problems" in their proper perspective, one that allows for creative solutions to emerge and materialize. This kind of question is open-ended, allowing the creative process to flow. The problem becomes an opportunity to learn, to stretch our imagination, and to grow in ways we may never have expected. Asking “What might make things a little better?” is really another way of asking “What will come out of this that will help us and others to be better?”; it leaves ego out of and brings the higher self into the creative process.
If we approach a problem as a problem, we are essentially approaching it from a lower vibration than if we approach it as an opportunity that will raise our vibration, allowing the creative process to flow. When a “problem” arises, rather than react, take a more proactive approach. See it as an opportunity and ask what it has to teach you. Open yourself to the possibilities. The solutions may not present themselves right away, but they will, as we trust in the creative process.