You are the creator of your own reality. No one else is.
You are free to make your own choices. Allowing someone else to attempt to create your reality is slavery. What satisfaction is there in being enslaved? It is your birthright to create.
By intentionally guiding your own life, you live your life on YOUR terms.
So, how do you get there from where you are now?
Align (or realign) yourself with Source/God/Infinite Intelligence/Creator. This is a conscious decision on your part. When you open up your heart to Source and the Universal Laws, you agree to allow the life force to move in and through you freely to help you create your reality.
Understand that your current state of reality is a result of your thinking, not someone else's. You created this reality because of the kinds of thoughts you have generated. Thoughts are energy, and they have either a positive charge or a negative charge. What you have in your life is the result of holding yourself in a vibrational pattern that matched the vibration of your desire. In other words, you are what you think. You attract what you think about the most. Your dominant thoughts get "picked up" by the universe (law of attraction); the universe then works in the mysterious ways that it does to manifest things into your life. Imagine yourself as a radio transmitter, sending out signals. That's when the universe tunes in.
The universe will always respond to you. So, you must be aware of your thought process (are your thoughts negative or positive?). You must also be aware of your feeling process. The two must match to bring about desired results. If they do not, then there is an imbalance that must be addressed. For example, if you desire a loving relationship, yet you harbor a fear of rejection, you've negated that love because of your fear. Love and fear cannot coexist in the same space. Something needs to change. In order to move forward, you would need to release those resistant thoughts (fears). Feeling any kind of discord when you think about your desires only pushes those desires further away.
Consciously return to the knowledge that you are free. You've always been free and always will be. Examine any resistance within yourself. Release what is holding you back...release it in forgiveness and in love. You may need to make some changes in your life. Examine what is holding you back from realizing your authentic self. Many times this requires a shift in your thinking from one of fear to one of love, from one of negativity to one that is positive. As you become aware of your thoughts and feelings, and as you realize your creative potential, you will be empowered to move forward in freedom.
When you team up with the Universe, you will not be denied. Greatness awaits.