Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Mindful Decision-Making

Our lives are filled with choices. We are born into a world of choices. The gift of free will allows us to choose as we please. We can choose how to feel, how to dress, what to eat, where to go, what to believe, what to think, how to treat others, how to treat ourselves, and so on. What a beautiful thing!

At any given moment, we can choose whatever we want.  Our choices allow us to begin or to end, to start over or to continue forward. We can even choose not to choose.

Talk about options.  Wow.

But how do we know that the choices we make are the best possible choices?

Anyone can make choices, but the mindful person understands that there are consequences to choices. Choices can have positive, constructive, and beneficial effects, or they can have negative, destructive, and malicious ones. Yet, some choices can have severe consequences that pay off in the long-run. Some choices may be well-intentioned initially but have disastrous effects later on.

Whatever the case, our choices direct our lives.  When we make conscious choices, we are steering our lives in a specific direction. We control our destiny, if you will. When we let others make decisions for us, we give up our control, leaving our lives in their hands.

Our choices can make us or they can break us. Some choices are harder to make than others. We can learn from the mindful person how to make better decisions for our lives. Below are six traits to adopt to help us navigate through the tougher choices in our lives.

1.  The mindful person goes inward to think about what s/he is doing, before doing it. This means examining the possible outcomes, weighing the options, and gaining some perspective. Going inward allows the mindful person to connect with the Higher Self.

2.  The mindful person avoids hasty decisions. S/he takes some time to think about things and lets the emotional dust settle. Sometimes the mindful person confides in someone trustworthy and objective to get a better perspective of the situation.

3.  The mindful person balances his/her thinking and being.  S/he doesn't over-analyze or over-think things. This brings undue stress to the situation. The mindful person will engage in meditation, prayer, or some other contemplative exercise to allow energy to flow freely so that creative solutions present themselves.

4.  The mindful person trusts in himself/herself. S/he has faith in his/her instincts and will make choices based on how aligned s/he feels with those choices, after thinking things through.

5.  The mindful person lets go. After some contemplative time, the mindful person gives it over to the Universe/God/Infinite Intelligence/Source, knowing that all is working out for the Highest Good.  S/he doesn't feel the need to worry about it.

Sure, our lives are filled with a multitude of choices and sometimes the abundance of choices can be overwhelming, especially if we don't know what we truly want for ourselves. The mindful person knows to take a step back, a step inward, and then lets go.

Your comments are always welcome.


  1. Penny, I see from your list that I am a mindful person. I think I always have been since a very young age. And... it has served me so well in life. I'm always surprised at the people who act first and consider later.... usually after the consequences set in.

    1. Dina, it's obvious that you are a very mindful person. I saw that from reading your words on AABL and on your page. Like you, I am surprised at the same people who give no consideration to the consequences...until those consequences set in. Hard lesson for them to learn I guess! <3