Monday, September 2, 2013

Seven Ways To Surprise A Woman

Gentlemen, this is addressed to you.

Taking care of your woman is a sacred act.

It requires thought, observation, and pure stealth.  Your goal is to catch her off guard.

Below are seven ways to surprise your woman.

1.  Listen to her. And listen intently. Women air their feelings by talking and venting. This does not mean for you to spring into action and solve everything. It means to listen. It means to look directly into her eyes and hear her words. Don't let your mind wander. Don't try to get her into bed. Don't have an A.D.D. moment. Practice patience and you will see into her soul in ways you never expected. Listening to her is a show of respect and appreciation.

2.  Give an unexpected gift at an unexpected time. This is truly a key to her heart. It doesn't have to be an expensive gift. Keep it simple, yet thoughtful, not, "Oh Honey, I bought you some antifreeze!" Plan a romantic weekend getaway (be sure to consult with her friends or employer so she has no excuses).

3.  Compliment her. Flattery will get you just about anywhere. Women love compliments. Find balance in giving them though.  Too many and she will think you are up to something. Not enough and she will think you've lost interest. Make compliments count.  Is she a great cook? Compliment her. Does she take good care of your children? Compliment her. Does she have a beautiful smile? Compliment her. Always look for things on which to compliment her. Avoid saying things like, "Wow, that dress doesn't make you look as fat today!"

4.  Become a chore whore. Help her with tasks around the house. Cooking, cleaning, and laundering is time-consuming, especially after a long day of work or caring for the kids. If she's showing signs of exhaustion or frustration, that's a cue to step in and help.

5.  Go out for a night on the town. Take her to dinner at her favorite restaurant. Go see a show. Go dancing. Take a carriage ride.  Whisper sweetness in her ears. While men are more visually stimulated, women are aurally stimulated. Romance her the way you did when you first met.

6.  Do things she likes to do. Allow yourself to enjoy the experience. Do it with an open mind. Don't worry about not appearing manly in front of your friends (if your friends are smart like you, they are doing these very things without your knowledge). Get a pedicure together. Go to the spa with her. Get a couple's massage. Go shopping and be sure to compliment her on her choices. When you do the things she likes, chances are she will reciprocate by doing things you enjoy.

7.  Change your plans to be with her and only her. Take a night off occasionally from your manly activities with your man-friends to spend quality time with your woman. Of course, don't tell her you are doing this in advance. Just do it. And be sure to turn off your phone so there will be no interruptions.

Guys, it really isn't difficult to please your woman. She is not as complex as you'd like to believe. She wants love, she wants attention, she wants your help, she wants your friendship. She wants acknowledgment as your partner and lover. All the things she does, she does for you because she loves you.

And of all the things she wants, she just wants you.

Your comments are always welcome. In what ways do you surprise your partner? Please share.

I am taking part in the Write Tribe Festival of Words 1st - 7th September 2013 at http://writetribe.com.  

36 comments:

  1. Great post! I'm sure all this would work with most women.

    I would just add, "communicate to your wife to see what it is that she wants from you, then do that."

    I am very atypical female, and generally, the things that "work" for most women do not work for me....but all is well because my husband and I learned very good communication skills many years ago (as a matter of fact, my husband TAUGHT the course and that is where I met him!)

    Find out what it is that YOUR wife wants and do that.

    (BTW, wives, treat your husbands well, too, and do what they like. I've found that the more you do for others from a point of pure love expecting nothing in return, the more is done for you.)

    :-)

    Kathy Hadley
    kathyhadleylifecoach.com

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    1. Kathy, yes, communication is key. And I love how you and your husband met! What a great story! Thanks for commenting.
      Penny

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  2. That, end of the day, is the most difficult thing for most people. The empathy to look at the world from the other person's point of view.

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    1. Thanks, Suresh. The end of the day, after a working hard, can be tough. We tend to stay in our own little world without realizing what our partner may have been through during the day. That's where communication is a must. :)
      Penny

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  3. This post is being forwarded as a must read to husband! Thanks a lot Penny for putting up simple but most effective points for consideration :-)

    Richa

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    1. Thanks, Richa! Husbands need reminders at times. :) Thanks for commenting.
      Penny

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  4. I am all smiles reading this...and in complete agreement..if a guy does all that you have written here, the lady will be do anything to keep him happy!

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    1. Indeed, Aparna! I'm glad I could make you smile with this. Sometimes men need things spelled out for them. We all need reminders from time to time when things begin to crowd our lives, pulling us away from our priorities. Thanks for commenting.
      Penny

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  5. This is so good!! I am going to have my husband read this so he can get a clue! LOL

    Kathy
    http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com

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    1. Kathy, let's hope he memorizes the list and passes with flying colors! Thanks for commenting.
      Penny

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  6. hey Penny thank you for the post...it surely will help to score a lot of brownie points :)

    you can check out my post here:-
    Karan - Grand Mother

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    1. Here's to tons of brownie points, Karan! I will definitely check out your post as well. Thanks so much for commenting.
      Penny

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  7. Just lovely! I especially love number 1... when a man truly listens to me I feel so valued.. like he genuinely cares about ME. And I definitely notice when they start to wander... which stings. Great advice :)

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    1. Yes, listening is key. It's all about valuing the person as a person and not as an object, which unfortunately happens a lot in relationships. Thanks so much for commenting.
      Penny

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  8. Love the pointers. Genuine way to win the lady's heart:)

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  9. Love your post Penny....posted to my FB, Twitter and Google. Thank you girl...another awesome blog.

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    1. Thank you so much, Wendy! Lots of love to you, girl!
      Penny

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  10. Good advice. I will mention that I regularly do 3-4 of these for/with my wife and we have a great relationship. I think because of my doing I get no grief when I do go do something that she does not enjoy or want to participate.

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    1. Ray, that is wonderful that you and your wife have such a beautiful relationship. Kudos to you! It becomes a true partnership when partners allow each other space for other endeavors without the anger, disappointment, or jealousy. Thanks for commenting :)
      Penny

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  11. I want my husband to read this awesome post & learn from it.I can certainly relate to all seven surprise points.

    http://sailorswiferamblings.blogspot.com/2013/09/sizzling-seven.html

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    1. Wonderful! It's also fun to reciprocate with surprises that you know he will enjoy, too. Make it fun and exciting! :) Thanks for stopping by and commenting.
      Penny

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  12. I like the idea of having a chore whore, it's both naughty and beneficial!

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    1. Indeed it is, Cairn! Imagine the creativity to be had :) Thanks so much for commenting!
      Penny

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  13. Loved all your ideas, Penny!

    Woman is indeed special :) cheers!

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    1. Thanks, Ruchira! I'm sure there are more to add, but these are the basics. Blessings!
      Penny

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  14. Fantastic read, excellent copy and enjoyable to read. I can say it is at the end of my day, my eyes are tired and I can feel the redness behind the lens.

    Let me put it this way, you know it good when the haze on the brain say share it, this is an excellent read in the morning and your followers will appreciate it.

    Penny,
    This is my first read of your material, look forward to it when the day is new and the haze is washed away.

    Roger Sessions

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    1. Thank you very much, Roger. I'm glad to know that this stirred you despite the haze you've mentioned. I certainly appreciate you sharing this with others. And I thank you for stopping by and commenting. I look forward to stirring you from your haze more often :)
      Penny

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  15. Only if Men realised that making his lady happy is so easy huh!

    Droppping in from WT...

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    1. It is easy, isn't it, Mina! We are not complex creatures at all...they just like to make us seem complicated. :) Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

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  16. Chore whore! Love it. It's really not that difficult, is it?

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    1. Nah, it's not that difficult, Talya! That's the beauty of it!
      Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I appreciate it.
      Penny

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  17. Thanks for the lovely ideas, Penny. Sometimes women need them as well. And what better gift than time and ears!

    Glad to stop by.

    Joy always,
    Susan

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    1. Susan, yes, sometimes women need these ideas and reminders as well. Thanks for your insight. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting.
      Penny

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  18. Loved every single idea of yours.
    Absolutely true! :)

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    1. Thanks, "Me." I'm sure there are more that can be added. Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting. I appreciate it.
      Penny

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