Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Victim or Victor?

Spirituality is not for wimps.

There is no room for victims.

If you're feeling like the spiritual equivalent of a 90 pound weakling while others throw copies of Dyer, Chopra, and Tolle in your face, then life will appear to be an endless string of crimes against you.

Life happens to you rather than for you.

In other words, life is either working for you, or it is working against you.

Sure, some events happen that seem like they are out of your control. They seem to come out of left field unexpectedly, and you suddenly find yourself in the position of fight, flight, or freeze. You can choose to let the events affect your life in the ways that you allow, or you can use them as a learning tools to improve your spiritual IQ.

Caroline Myss, an American author, says, "We are never being punished, only being taught. Everything is a teaching."

It's a matter of perspective.

We can choose to be victims, or we can choose to be victors.

As a victim, life happens to you in ways that kick you around like an abused dog chained to a tree. You live your life fearing what will happen, and you continuously growl at anything that comes your way. You blame everything and everyone else for your misfortune, and you feel that the Universe is punishing you.

As a victor, though, life happens as you make it happen. If flows effortlessly, and if obstacles come your way, you embrace them and turn them into learning experiences for your highest good. Rather than let life steamroll over you, you jump into the driver's seat and direct your course. You feel connected to the Universe in a loving and positive way. There is no blame, only gratitude.

Want to improve your spiritual IQ? See yourself as living victoriously. Take responsibility. Educate yourself. And give gratitude.

No more wimping around.

Spiritwork:

If you could invite one spiritual leader (alive or no longer on our physical plane) to your home for dinner, who would you invite?

Write down a list of questions you would ask this person.

After "speaking" with this person during dinner, how do you think he or she would answer your questions?

For the next week, emulate, as much as possible, this spiritual leader whose actions and attributes you admire.

Ask how s/he would act if faced with the situations in your daily life. Play the part. How would that spiritual leader respond to a situation that requires a decision, or to someone who feels confused and lost?

Research shows that an attitude change follows a behavior change. We do, then we feel. As you emulate your spiritual leader of choice, notice how it affects your interactions with others. More than likely, you will find them improving.

Blessings.

Related Posts:

Read the introduction to 31 Days of Spiritual Growth here, and find links to each post in this series.


9 comments:

  1. Love this post!! I find so much satisfaction in doing this same type of thing. It has given me an incredible amount of confidence when it comes to making important decisions. Simply lovely!

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    1. Cheryl,

      It does make a BIG difference in our lives when we approach it this way. I'm so glad to hear that you do this! I know whenever I face a challenge or a decision, all I have to do is think about what a spiritual leader would say or do and then BOOM, I have the answer.

      Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.
      Blessings.
      Penny

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  2. Amen!!
    Wonderful, Inspiring and Powerful message today Penny!

    Beautifully written and spot on!!

    Yesterday, I wrote a passage that fits so nicely into this - "Victorious people change their world from “within” instead of expecting the world to change around them in order to meet their expectations."

    Healthy blessings with gratitude,
    Gena :)

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    1. Thank you so much, Gena!

      Victorious people live their lives from the inside out, not the outside in. They are very aware of the responsibility they have in changing and reforming their personal worlds. WOO HOO!

      Simpatico!!!

      Blessings!
      Penny

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  3. Amen to that Penny!!!!!!!
    Love and Blessings,
    Gena :)

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  4. BRAVO and AMEN! I went through the divorce smack down followed by the breast cancer smack down. I won both rounds. And both were out of the blue lessons that the Universe felt I needed to learn.

    Rock on!!

    Peggy

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    1. WOO HOO! Good for you, Peggy, for coming out the Champ on those two setbacks! Keep rockin' on, girl!

      Blessings.
      Penny

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  5. Awesome post.....I've meet tons of people who enjoy the being the victims ..its a revolving door....they so enjoy it and tons of negitive follows them.so then they say see I was right..only bad things happen...n they r right...
    Owell...once I saw the beauty in the positive n becoming much happier....the universe started giving me gifts.....so grateful n continue to be......thanks for the ride....

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    1. True, they don't realize that they can get out of the revolving door at any time they choose.

      When we shift our perspective, that revolving door of negativity stops.

      :-)
      Blessings.
      Penny

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