Day 27 of 29 Days of Spiritual Messages.Former U.S. Secretary of State John Foster Dulles, who served under President Eisenhower from 1953-1959 and was a significant figure in the early Cold War era, lends his wisdom about decision-making:
"Once -- many, many years ago -- I thought I made a wrong decision. Of course, it turned out that I had been right all along. But I was wrong to have thought that I was wrong."
There are no "wrong" decisions.
Many of us have a hard time making decisions. We fear that if we make the "wrong" choice, we will make a bad investment.
We could, at times, make better, more informed choices, but they are never "wrong." Regardless of the outcome, we always gain something from it, whether we get what we intended or learn a valuable lesson.
A decision is only "wrong" when we attach an outcome to it. Attaching an outcome narrows the possibilities of what can happen, and when things don't happen in the way that we expect, we find ourselves feeling full of disappointment, and worse yet, feeling like a failure.
Being able to make choices is one of life's privileges. But to exercise this privilege, we must have the courage to decide, to act, to take a chance by moving in a particular direction. But we can't take any action until we first make a decision. Without action our lives stagnate.
Sometimes we need to follow through on a decision to realize that what we thought we wanted is not what we really want. For example, maybe you've always wanted to live in the big city, away from the quietness of the country, so you leave your family, friends, and job and move far, far away. But once you get there, you find that you do not like the commotion and the fast-pace of city living. You wouldn't have known this unless you tried it.
Your decision to experience urban life did work out, just not in the way that you intended. Chalk it up to experience and a lesson learned. Now you know what city life is all about and you can move home (or move on) with a new appreciation for small town life.
Our decisions are never "wrong" when they help us to expand who we are. The only thing that is "wrong" is our wrongful thinking about our decisions. When we change our perspective about the outcome of our decisions, we can only grow and move forward. We can fully embrace the direction our lives are taking.
Being able to make choices is a gift. Our decisions may not always work out as we intended, but they always work out in the end for our highest good and our ultimate happiness.