Anything worth doing is going to have some fear attached.
Think about some of the life changes you've experienced that brought up deep worries or concerns.
Having a baby. Getting married. Getting divorced. Changing careers.
Big events invite big emotions. And fear can be the big bow atop the gift that awaits us. Do we dare open it? Or not?
Fear has a way of throwing us off balance. When we tug at its bow, we get the sense that we are unraveling. It makes us feel uncertain and insecure.
We find ourselves questioning whether we really want the new life that these changes will bring. We may also find ourselves releasing and grieving for the past as a necessary part of moving into the new. But fear is not meant to discourage us.
So, what is fear's purpose? And how do we respond to it?
Its purpose is to notify us that we are at the edge of our comfort zone, where we hang in balance between our old life and a new one. Fear, in this sense, is not trying to hold us back, but move us forward to our highest expression.
Fear informs us that the change we are facing is significant, and so approach it with the proper reverence. The more we learn to respect fear and even welcome it, the more we will be able to hear its wisdom. It lets us know that the time has come to move forward--or not.
We may never feel completely comfortable with fear, but we can honor it, recognize it, listen to what it has to say, and respect it as the bringer of transformation for our life. Sitting quietly in meditation or journaling about your feelings can bring greater understanding of the change you are making and help you to hurdle any inner obstacles.
We can't open a gift without first untying the bow. While fear is a strong emotion, it helps to remember that it almost always comes alongside anything worth doing in our lives. When we work with fear rather than against it, we transform it into the gift of courage so that we can move forward to our highest and best self.