In quantum physics, this is known as "phase entanglement." Particles converge and separate, but often when two of them come together, they take a portion of the other with them when they separate. In our relationships, when two people meet, each one's energy becomes attached to the other, and when the relationship ends, each individual leaves something behind when moving on.
However you view it, or whatever you call it, these cords exist and connect us to others, and they can remain long after a relationship has ended, sometimes leaving an open channel through which emotions and energy can continue to flow.
Think of it as a psychic or invisible umbilical cord through which thoughts, feelings, and energy pass between individuals.
If you're unaware that it exists, you may find yourself feeling the other person's feelings and mistakenly think that they are your own. This kind of psychic vampirism can leave you feeling vulnerable, sad, angry, lethargic, and completely drained of your mojo.
Cutting the cord can help you rid yourself of old baggage and unnecessary attachments, especially from connections that are no longer benefiting either of you.
Cutting the cord of attachment is a gentle but potent process. It's best done when you are alone and relaxed, and it's important that you be strong in your intention to release the cord between you and someone else. There are numerous ways to do this, but you may create your own version or ritual of release. The key components are intention, centering, visualizing, cutting, healing, and blessing.
To begin, state your intention, either aloud or to yourself: "I, (state your name), now intend to release the ties that bind me to (state person's name)."
Center yourself by breathing deeply. When you are ready, visualize or sense the cord that is connecting you to the individual you have named. Determine where the cut is to be made and then visualize a clean, swift cut through the cord. You may call upon the help of archangel Michael with his sword, or you may visualize yourself or your spiritual being of choice doing the cutting.
Visualize any space in your energy field being filled with healing light so as to "cauterize" this spiritual gap. You may enlist the help of archangel Raphael with his green healing light or another spiritual being.
See this as a positive and nurturing act. Say, "I now release (state person's name) with love. It is done." Send it to the light for healing and transformation. Offer your gratitude for this experience.
This does not mean that you are severing the relationship with the person, just the cord that is no longer benefiting either of you. You may have simply outgrown each other, or the relationship may no longer serve a higher purpose. Perhaps it has grown toxic.
Whatever the case, cord cutting is a freeing experience. It releases us, and others, to reach new stages of growth, giving us the space to complete any emotional work that may need to be done.
What has been your experience with cutting cords? Feel free to share.